Adele was very candid about her postpartum depression. The singer’s words mirror what you may hear from new moms when you become a doula.
Adele is known for her honesty. In a recent interview with Vanity Fair, she proved that talking about her postpartum depression is no exception. The first few weeks and months after having a baby are hard. In fact, Adele’s words may become very familiar to you when you become a doula.
Reflecting on the tumultuous time in her life, she recalled finally admitting to a friend “I … hate this”. Her friend, also a new mother, reciprocated her feelings.
When asked about whether or not she would have a second child, she revealed that she is too scared. Her postpartum depression was so bad that she’s frightened to relive it.
“My knowledge of postpartum – or postnatal as we call it in England – is that you don’t want to be with your child; you’re worried you might hurt your child; you’re worried you weren’t doing a good job. But I was obsessed with my child. I felt very inadequate; I felt like I’d made the worst decision of my life.”
When you become a doula, it’s important to know that postpartum depression can take many forms.
As we mentioned in a previous article, it’s not a “one-size-fits-all” disorder. Adele’s words illustrate that fact perfectly.
After you become a doula, it’s important for you to create a safe space for mothers to communicate openly and honestly. As Adele said, she thought postpartum depression presented differently than what she experienced. New mothers may need help sorting out their feelings and understanding what’s normal and what’s not. For instance, they be unsure if their experience baby blues or something else.
Most importantly, by opening up about her struggle, Adele is letting other mothers with postpartum depression know that they’re not alone. When you become a doula, you may need to remind your clients of this fact. Encourage them to talk not just to you, but other mothers. Having peer support can be invaluable. Adele said her depression “lifted” after she finally admitted her struggle to her friend.