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If You Want to Become a Doula, Make Sure You Learn How to Listen

October 6, 2016

If You Want to Become a Doula, Make Sure You Learn How to Listen

For anyone who is thinking, “I want to become a doula!”, learn why your ears will become one of your most important tools of the trade.

In our previous blog post, we talked about how you need to put your clients first when you become a doula. A key part of that is being an effective listener. I can’t state how important it is for a doula to truly understand what their clients want and need.

If you are already decided to become a doula at the International Doula Institute, you may have noticed that this is already built into our curriculum. In addition to learning about labor, birth, and the postpartum period, we want to make sure our doulas have the skills to be amazing communicators. That’s why IDI’s required reading includes books like Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and How to Win Friends and Influence People.

The Today Show recently published an article by Bela Gandhi that lists six strategies to help you sharpen your listening skills. The advice is perfect for anyone who interested in becoming a doula. I recommend reading the full article, but here are some of the takeaways that I found particularly useful for our doula students:

Understand What Your Clients Want

The first strategy listed is “listen to understand.” In fact, Gandhi says that this should be a mantra that you use prior every conversation. After becoming a doula, repeat this manta every time you meet with your clients. To truly support a new family, you need to understand their wishes and goals, and how they want you to help.

Listen to New Mothers Talk About Their Birth

Gandhi states that “a fundamental need for all human beings is to feel heard and understood.” This is especially important for newly postpartum mothers. In the book Mothering the New Mother, author Sally Placksin says that new mothers need to talk about their birth; it is part of the postpartum adjustment cycle. Sometimes, the most important thing you can do for a new mother is be a listening ear.

Let Your Clients Know They’re Being Heard

The fourth strategy listed, “follow up on previous conversations”, helps you put your listening skills to work. Every time you see your clients, circle back to previous meetings. If they mentioned at your last prenatal meeting that they’d be touring their local hospital, ask them what they thought at your next meeting. If they told you that their brother from out of town would be coming to see the baby in between your postpartum shifts, ask them how the visit went. Remembering these details, and encouraging your clients to open up, will impress upon them that you’re really hearing what they’re saying. It tells them that you’re invested in what’s going in their lives.

Practice Makes Perfect

Practice these skills as often as you can! Soon, you’ll find that being a good listener comes naturally. The benefits of being a great listener are obvious when you become a doula, and they will carry over into all aspects of your life.

Aliza Juliette Bancoff
Author: Aliza Juliette Bancoff

Aliza Juliette Bancoff is a well-known doula and doula trainer who has been providing doula services to families for over a decade. She is the founder of Main Line Doulas, a doula group providing doula support in the great Philadelphia area for the last decade, the International Doula Institute, which provides online doula training and lactation training and certification programs and  the International Breastfeeding Institute which provides lactation training and certification.   She is the co-founder of United Birth, a company devoted to increasing access to doulas across the country to make the perinatal time safer both physically and emotionally. “Every birthing person deserves access to quality doula support. And we are working to make that a reality across the country. The work we are doing to get doulas to every birthing person will decrease the black infant and maternal mortality rate significantly by 2030.” Says Bancoff. Aliza is known for her compassionate and empowering approach to doula work, and she has been featured in numerous media outlets, including United Nations Maternal Health Report,  Parent Magazine, CafeMom, theBump and many more. Aliza's journey into doula work began when she gave birth to her first child and felt a strong calling...

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