After your doula training, clients may seek your guidance in creating a birth plan. You can help them be prepared for the unexpected by using a birth map instead.
During your doula training, you will learn about birth plans. In a nutshell, this is a plan written by the expecting mother and her partner. The purpose is for them to outline their wishes for their birth, including things they want to have happen, and things they want to avoid.
You’ll also learn during your doula training that birth plans can be a bit controversial.
Some mothers with very specific birth plans may feel disappointed if things don’t go as expected. Additionally, some providers may scoff at the idea of the birth plan, viewing them as being outdated or even combative.
After your doula training, you may play a big role in helping your clients figure out their birth plans (if they choose to create one). After all, a lot of what a doula does prior to birth is to help educate women about their options. It will be your job to balance giving clients a realistic view of the unpredictability of birth while continuing to support their wishes.
It’s important to remind your clients to keep their birth plans fluid.
The Huffington Post blog recently published an article that speaks to this exactly. Writer Georgia Morley presents a different kind of birth plan, which she refers to as a “birth map”. Morely admits that it sounds like it’s merely about semantics; after all, both the birth plan and birth map require your clients to write down their vision for birth. But, here’s why they’re different:
The implication of a birth plan is that birth can be planned for.
You’ll find out during your doula training that this isn’t the case. Morley states: “Plans create expectations, and when birthing needs change, those expectations can be unmet.” If the plan changes, it can lead the birthing mother to feel disappointed, or feel like she somehow failed.
A birth map recognizes the unpredictability of birth and that some things may be out of the birthing woman’s control.
It tells your clients that although the destination is ultimately the same – when all is said and done, they will have a new baby – there are many ways to get there. No matter how they envision their birth, it’s helpful to remind them that things can, and do, change. That’s why the fluidity of the birth map can be helpful, versus answering a specific set of questions like a birth plan.
You will use the knowledge acquired during your doula training to help your clients understand all their options ahead of time. This way, they will feel more comfortable making choices as needed while keeping an overall vision of their birth intact.
Of course, you will also want to remind them that no matter what happens they are amazing and powerful for bringing a new human into the world. More importantly, they can depend on you to be there every step of the way.
Author: Aliza Juliette Bancoff
Aliza Juliette Bancoff is a well-known doula and doula trainer who has been providing doula services to families for over a decade. She is the founder of Main Line Doulas, a doula group providing doula support in the great Philadelphia area for the last decade, the International Doula Institute, which provides online doula training and lactation training and certification programs and the International Breastfeeding Institute which provides lactation training and certification. She is the co-founder of United Birth, a company devoted to increasing access to doulas across the country to make the perinatal time safer both physically and emotionally. “Every birthing person deserves access to quality doula support. And we are working to make that a reality across the country. The work we are doing to get doulas to every birthing person will decrease the black infant and maternal mortality rate significantly by 2030.” Says Bancoff. Aliza is known for her compassionate and empowering approach to doula work, and she has been featured in numerous media outlets, including United Nations Maternal Health Report, Parent Magazine, CafeMom, theBump and many more. Aliza's journey into doula work began when she gave birth to her first child and felt a strong calling...