International Doula Institute

Contact Us Today! (484) 278-1648

Secure Your Spot — Apply Now!
  • Home
  • Admissions
    • Doula Scholarship
    • Who We Serve
    • Tuition Costs
    • Register Now
    • Financial Aid
    • Application Process: 2 Easy Enrollment Steps
    • Login To My Courses
  • What Is a Doula?
    • What is a Birth Doula?
    • What is a Postpartum Doula?
    • Scope of Practice
    • Would You Be a Good Doula?
  • About our Programs
    • Diversity, Equity and Inclusion for Birth Workers
    • Birth Doula Certification Program
    • Postpartum Doula Certification Program
    • Prenatal Yoga Instructor Certification Program
    • Certified Breastfeeding Counselor Program
    • Certified Childbirth Educator Program
    • Certified Perinatal Nutrition Educator
    • Curriculum Contributors
    • Countries We Serve
      • USA
      • Doula Training in Canada
      • India
      • China
      • England
      • Italy
  • What You Get
    • How To Get Certified As a Doula
    • Doula Certification Required Readings
    • School Tour
  • FAQs
  • Blog

Why Birth Matters – And Doulas Are Vital!

October 9, 2021

birth mattersWe know birth is important. We know it is a big day. However, do we truly know why birth matters?

We have all likely heard a new mom tell her birth story in such detail and it seems so significant, but it is still a fresh memory. It does not seem overly significant.

However, have you ever asked the parent of a twenty-year-old about their labor? What about the parent of a forty or even sixty-year-old? Often, with the same detail of a new mom, their story comes flowing out with readable emotion on their face and in their tone. This is why birth matters; it is an inevitable life changing moment that one never forgets.

Lifelong Memories

As a birth worker, many people share their experiences with me. I’ve been surprised over the years how much detail older parents still recall.

Here are a few memories parents shared:

  • “She let me move and walk around, it was relieving to find new positions and listen to my body. Then they placed her right on my chest.” – Mother of a 33-year-old
  • “My body told me to be on all fours, I just needed to do that, but they wouldn’t let me. They made me stay in bed and on my back. It hurt.” – Mother of a 37-year-old
  • “Everyone was so supportive. I felt the love in the room. I couldn’t have imagined a better birth.” – Mother of a newborn
  • “I labored alone near many others laboring alone. No one offered me anything, no one helped. Once I was ready to push, many hours later, they finally took me to delivery room.” – Mother of a 40-year-old
  • “It was just my husband, my midwife and her student. Everyone gave me space but remained close if I needed them. It was calm, relaxing, and not an ounce of fear.” – Mother of a 7-year-old

We Cannot Control All Aspects – But Birth Matters

We cannot control all aspects of how labor unfolds. However, the birth team can control how they treat someone in labor. They can control how they interact, include in discussions, and they can provide empathetic support.

Yes, a healthy baby and safe birth outcomes matter, they matter a whole lot. However, they are not the only things which matter. Even the most physically challenging and scary birth can have positive memories of being treated with respect, dignity, and empathy.

As a doula, you can help your clients make informed decisions. You can support your clients as an empathic and continuous support aiding in a positive birth experience regardless of how labor unfolds.

Here are five ways you can help your clients prepare knowing why birth matters:

#1: Encourage Them To Make An Informed Decision About Care Provider Choice

It isn’t uncommon for people to simply see their regular GYN for their pregnancy. While there’s nothing inherently wrong with doing that, it is important they make an informed decision. It’s possible that their regular OB/GYN is a great physician but has differing birth philosophies than your client.

Your client may also be unaware of the option to use a midwife. Depending on their risk level and desired birth preference, research might show them that a midwife is a better choice for them. Remind your client that how they experience their birth matters. They deserve a provider they truly trust and are comfortable with.

#2: Remind Clients To Research Their Chosen Birth Facility

Sometimes choosing the closest hospital is a great decision. Other times, it may make sense to drive to a better facility, choose a home birth, or go to a freestanding birth center. Options can vary greatly depending on where you live. However, where one gives birth can determine their risk of interventions, c-sections, etc.

#3: Educate Clients About Birth Options

Helping your client understand all their birth options is a huge part of being a professional doula. Our goal is never to push them to make specific choices but simply provide them with evidenced based information, so they are aware of their options.

#4: Help Clients Build Their Confidence

The fear-tension-pain-cycle can be challenging to overcome if a client is not confident in their ability to cope with labor or when they don’t know what to expect. Affirmations, positive birth stories, birth preference/plan preparation can help your clients build confidence.

#5: Encourage Clients To Become Familiar With Their Rights

When your clients are aware of their rights, then can advocate for their birth preferences and appropriate treatment. Birth matters. A client will remember how they are treated during birth for years to come. Being an active participant in the birth process can help clients have a more positive and empowering experience regardless of how their birth unfolds.

Aliza Juliette Bancoff
Author: Aliza Juliette Bancoff

Aliza Juliette Bancoff is a well-known doula and doula trainer who has been providing doula services to families for over a decade. She is the founder of Main Line Doulas, a doula group providing doula support in the great Philadelphia area for the last decade, the International Doula Institute, which provides online doula training and lactation training and certification programs and  the International Breastfeeding Institute which provides lactation training and certification.   She is the co-founder of United Birth, a company devoted to increasing access to doulas across the country to make the perinatal time safer both physically and emotionally. “Every birthing person deserves access to quality doula support. And we are working to make that a reality across the country. The work we are doing to get doulas to every birthing person will decrease the black infant and maternal mortality rate significantly by 2030.” Says Bancoff. Aliza is known for her compassionate and empowering approach to doula work, and she has been featured in numerous media outlets, including United Nations Maternal Health Report,  Parent Magazine, CafeMom, theBump and many more. Aliza's journey into doula work began when she gave birth to her first child and felt a strong calling...

Important Links

  • Secure Your Spot: Enroll Now!
  • Register Now
  • Online Learning Portal Login
  • Frequently Asked Questions About Becoming a Doula

Contact Us Today!
(484) 278-1648

© 2023 · International Doula Institute | Terms & Conditions | Privacy Policy |